Choose a kind, supportive partner – Chimamanda Adichie advises young women

Popular Nigerian author Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie has called on young women to be thoughtful and intentional when deciding on a life partner, warning against marrying out of desperation or societal pressure.

Speaking at a recent student event, the celebrated writer stressed the lasting consequences that come with such an important decision, highlighting the value of choosing someone who is kind and supportive.

“It’s really important who you choose. It’s really important. Young women, choose wisely,” Adichie said. “Sometimes as young women, you can tell that the person you’re with is not really a good person, but you’re desperate to get married. You’re desperate to have somebody who’s your partner. Don’t settle. Be very careful who you choose.”

The award-winning author, known for novels like Half of a Yellow Sun and Americanah, added that the right partner can have a significant impact on one’s happiness and peace of mind. “The person you choose as your life partner will make a huge difference in your life. If you choose somebody who’s kind, supportive, it will make all the difference. So I can tell you that I chose well, there are some good men left,” she added.

Adichie, who has been married to Nigerian doctor Ivara Esege since 2009, has three children with him — a daughter and twin boys. Her remarks come shortly after she revealed reclaiming her identity by proudly embracing her Igbo name, “Chimamanda,” after years of feeling a detachment from it.